Today, I opened my daily listserv email from an author I've long admired, who focuses on self-discipline and mindfulness. While I often agree with much of what the author has to say, there’s always been something that hasn’t sat right with me. Today, I discovered why. The email contained a quote by Napoleon Hill, and it clarified the core difference between his approach and mine. Hill's philosophy centers on direct control over one's thoughts to achieve self-discipline and success. His quote, "Self-discipline begins with the mastery of your thoughts," encapsulates this belief. In contrast, my approach emphasizes awareness and ensuring our thoughts do not control us, inspired by mindfulness and a focus on personal values.

1. Control of Thoughts

Napoleon Hill's Approach: Hill believed that controlling and directing thoughts can influence emotions and behaviors. Positive affirmations and constructive thoughts replace negative thoughts and self-doubt. By mastering your thoughts, you can achieve a higher level of self-discipline and ultimately, success.

My Approach: Instead of controlling thoughts directly, my approach focuses on understanding that thoughts should not control us. We cultivate awareness to manage our responses, recognizing thoughts as temporary and not necessarily reflective of our true selves or values.

2. Goals and Purpose

Napoleon Hill's Approach: Hill emphasized having a "Definite Major Purpose" in life, which acts as a guiding star. Clear, specific goals provide direction and motivation, making self-discipline easier.

My Approach: Instead of setting specific goals, I emphasize focusing on the kind of person we aspire to be. This approach provides a consistent, value-driven framework for behavior, allowing for growth and adaptation without the pressure of rigid targets.

3. Persistence and Acceptance

Napoleon Hill's Approach: Consistently working towards a goal builds discipline and forms habits aligned with one's objectives. Persistence is key to maintaining focus and achieving success.

My Approach: Rather than relentless persistence, I advocate for accepting where we are and being compassionate with ourselves. This fosters a sustainable approach to self-discipline, where self-kindness leads to resilience and long-term growth.

4. Planning and Flexibility

Napoleon Hill's Approach: Detailed planning and organization reduce uncertainty and increase the likelihood of disciplined action. Organized plans provide a step-by-step approach to achieving goals.

My Approach: While planning is important, my approach encourages flexibility and adaptability. Understanding that rigid plans can sometimes hinder progress, we adjust as needed, remaining open to changes and new opportunities.

5. Positive Attitude vs. Balanced Perspective

Napoleon Hill's Approach: Maintaining an optimistic and constructive outlook helps overcome setbacks and maintain discipline. Hill introduced the concept of Positive Mental Attitude (PMA).

My Approach: Instead of a purely positive mental attitude, I promote a balanced perspective that acknowledges both positive and negative emotions. Using mindfulness, we navigate them effectively, ensuring we stay grounded and realistic.

6. Reflection and Mindful Practice

Napoleon Hill's Approach: Regular self-reflection helps identify areas for improvement and adjust strategies. Learning from failures is crucial for developing self-discipline.

My Approach: Self-reflection and learning are integral, but I emphasize continuous mindful practice. Focusing on the process of growth, we learn from each experience and stay present, allowing us to evolve naturally and sustainably.

Integration with Math Tutoring

In my math tutoring sessions, I help students become aware of their thoughts and emotions related to math anxiety or stress. By using mindfulness techniques, students learn to manage their physiological responses and create a mental state conducive to learning. This approach not only helps in mastering math concepts but also builds resilience and emotional regulation, which can be applied in other areas of their lives.

Summary

The difference between Hill's and my approach lies in the method of achieving self-discipline. While Hill advocates for direct control over thoughts, my approach emphasizes mindfulness, awareness, and ensuring our thoughts do not control us. By focusing on the kind of person we want to be, fostering acceptance and compassion, encouraging flexible planning, promoting a balanced perspective, and practicing continuous mindfulness, we cultivate a healthier relationship with thoughts and emotions. This process-oriented, holistic, and compassionate approach aligns with modern understandings of psychology and mindfulness practices, fostering long-term growth and resilience.

Special thanks to Oliver Burkeman for his insightful contributions to modern approaches to self-discipline and mindfulness, which have greatly influenced my perspective.